I have an amazing husband. Almost every single morning he makes a pan of eggs for our breakfast. He sets aside 15 precious minutes in the early morning for us to connect and talk before the hustle and bustle of work and children. He loves to talk, and he loves to listen…and not just listen, but he is really good about tuning in and thinking about what I am saying. He is a kind man. Have I mentioned that every night he reads bedtime stories to our Little Oilist and washes the dinner dishes? Yes, I have one amazing man.
I also have some amazing daughters. They are SO cute. Every morning they wake up happy to see me and want to cuddle. They have the cutest girly giggles. They love to dance to music. They have beautiful eyes – one with the brightest, biggest blue eyes and the other with the warmest framed brown eyes. I love looking into those eyes and kissing those chubby cheeks. Yes, I am one blessed mommy.
But you didn’t come here to hear me gush about Daddy Oilist.
Or Little Oilist or Baby Oilist.
And that is okay.
Though to be totally candid, on some occasions, we don’t feel all “gushy” about each other either. We are all humans and a work in progress. We love each other SO much and though we have never had any big disagreements, sometimes little, silly, daily issues can start to grind on us. Issues with leaving on time, forgetting to do what we committed to do, crabbiness and the like start to wear on those around us.
Here is where I let you on in my secret for changing my attitude to these common frustrations before they fester and become big problems:
Pick a time when there are no frustrations between you and your closest family members or those that you are in contact with the most. Make a cup of tea or go to a coffee shop; relax. Enjoy smelling some of your essential oils. While you are happy and peaceful create a list of 50 things you love about those people closest to you. If you can, write out that list with the loving mindset you had for that person on the day you married him or the day you birthed him. By writing quickly and with a loving heart, you will most likely get to 50 things before you know it.
Place your list(s) somewhere very safe where you won’t forget.
The next time there is a small conflict, issue or irritation, don’t say anything you might later regret. Instead pray, put on your chosen oil (smell deeply and RELAX) and read your list. Before you get through it, you will probably be smiling and have a much kinder, loving attitude toward that amazing person in your life.
I have found this to be so effective. I love dwelling day-to-day on the wonderful qualities of my husband and daughters. They are a blessing, and so are yours.
Here are some ideas for appropriate essential oil blends:
Forgiveness™ – “Contains a synergistic blend of soothing and uplifting essential oils that may enhance the ability to release hurtful memories and move beyond emotional barriers. The process of growth can only proceed when we have the ability to forgive and let go of negative emotions.”
Gratitude™ – “Is a soothing blend of therapeutic-grade essential oils designed to elevate the spirit, calm emotions, and bring relief to the body while helping to foster a grateful attitude.”
Common Sense™ – “Is a proprietary blend of Young Living essential oils formulated to enhance rational decision-making abilities leading to increased wellness, purpose, and abundance.”
Harmony™ – “Is an exquisite blend that promotes physical and emotional well-being by bringing harmonic balance to the energy centers of the body. The liberating, balancing, and calming essential oils in this blend open us to new possibilities while contributing to an overall feeling of well-being.
Peace & Calming® – “Is a gentle, sweet blend of Ylang Ylang, Orange, Tangerine, Patchouli, and Blue Tansy. This fragrant oil is a wonderful addition to your meditation, evening routine, or playtime with the kids. With a comforting, fresh aroma, Peace & Calming oil creates a relaxing environment that’s especially great for homes with children.”